Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 4

Some time ago a woman who’d been married for only a year but had been pursuing this work with me for a number of years described a moving experience of the unfamiliarity of her new relationship while simultaneously feeling a profound ease with her husband. A sense of longevity in the relationship was there even without significant shared history. And both were looking forward to the years ahead, imagining how the tenor and hue of their patterns together might transform through familiarity and time.

As we find a way to live that puts our attention on that which we don’t already know, we do away with a veneer of over-familiarity that suffocates potentially good relationships.

This quality is fascinating because it occurs in a context of deepening familiarity and intimacy. The breadth of life experience that naturally results from our time together occurs in a liberated context that makes our intimacy ever new.

You feel like you could be together for another forty years yet still maintain that quality of freshness, that sparkle, and the growth that comes from the eternal spring of a liberated ground. As we find a way to live that puts our attention on that which we don’t already know, we do away with a veneer of over-familiarity that suffocates potentially good relationships. Centering in a liberated context where Spirit is first brings an immediate freshness into the relationship. Then your time with your partner doesn’t become a stagnant pond. You’ve created and are continually re-creating a vibrant pool of new emergence.

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