Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 4 Some time ago a woman who’d been married for only a year but had been pursuing this work with me for a number of years described a moving experience of the unfamiliarity of her new relationship while simultaneously feeling a profound ease with her husband. A sense of longevity … Read More
Shared Agreements for a Shared Life
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 3 We depend on our partners for so many things and we share so much together. Some people feel that the romantic context is our arena for personal work—that because we’re so involved with each other, our partners are the best people to use as our mirrors and work out … Read More
Love & Alignment
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 2 When it comes to love between people in a context of spiritual realization, there’s no single recipe for how to be. Love is based more on alignment with our deepest understanding and greatest care, than it is on how we happen to feel at any particular moment. That’s a … Read More
Can You Leave Too Much Space?
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 2 Occasionally, when I start speaking about big perspectives, people express concern that this may trigger alienation in their relationship. “Can you leave your partner so much space that you lose connection with them?” When the space we give our partners is inspired by an evolutionary perspective, it is motivated … Read More
How A Big View Helps When Times Are Tough
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 1 A few years ago, I was in a very serious motor vehicle accident— an 18-wheel tractor-trailer and I met, nose-to-nose. Just recently I overheard my husband describe his internal thought process right after he got the news. The EMT called with a perfunctory message, “Your wife has been in … Read More
One Set of Ideals for Life & Relationship
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 1 The way I see it is this: The context for your life is the context for your relationship. There aren’t two separate contexts. There aren’t two separate sets of rules. There aren’t two separate goals or two separate sets of ideals. This can be as unsettling as it is … Read More
Great Expectations for Relationships
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 1 What we expect from each other has to do with how we define the greater purpose of our lives and our marriages. Often times, we “commit” to each other without articulating what that union actually means or stands for. Knowing what we stand for sets guidelines for how we … Read More