Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 2 Occasionally, when I start speaking about big perspectives, people express concern that this may trigger alienation in their relationship. “Can you leave your partner so much space that you lose connection with them?” When the space we give our partners is inspired by an evolutionary perspective, it is motivated … Read More
How A Big View Helps When Times Are Tough
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 1 A few years ago, I was in a very serious motor vehicle accident— an 18-wheel tractor-trailer and I met, nose-to-nose. Just recently I overheard my husband describe his internal thought process right after he got the news. The EMT called with a perfunctory message, “Your wife has been in … Read More
One Set of Ideals for Life & Relationship
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 1 The way I see it is this: The context for your life is the context for your relationship. There aren’t two separate contexts. There aren’t two separate sets of rules. There aren’t two separate goals or two separate sets of ideals. This can be as unsettling as it is … Read More
Great Expectations for Relationships
Excerpt from Amy Edelstein’s book Love, Marriage & Evolution: Chapter 1 What we expect from each other has to do with how we define the greater purpose of our lives and our marriages. Often times, we “commit” to each other without articulating what that union actually means or stands for. Knowing what we stand for sets guidelines for how we … Read More
Closeness in Relationship
We think our unity comes only from feeling close with our partners. But there is another place where we can discover essential Unity, and that fulfillment at a deep level of self enables us to experience closeness, calmness, and tremendous Love for our partners. Mystical realization points us to the discovery of an endless depth of presence, Being. Most of … Read More
Thankfulness for Friendship
Taking the time to appreciate and extend gratitude to our partners regularly — and on special days — brings to the fore the qualities that brought us together and that make our relationship meaningful and directional. Feeling a sense of movement and development, an updraft, in our bond with our partners awakens a sense of gratitude. And putting attention on … Read More
Thankfulness for Friendship
Taking the time to appreciate and extend gratitude to our partners regularly — and on special days — brings to the fore the qualities that brought us together and that make our relationship meaningful and directional. Feeling a sense of movement and development, an updraft, in our bond with our partners awakens a sense of gratitude. And putting attention on … Read More